Greetings,
I work at home and there are many advantages such as, setting my own hours, no rush hour commute and more me time. However it frees me up to deal with the challenges of house hold disasters( plumbing problems,leaky roofs, broke down appliances etc.) and don't forget phone call interrupters. Our daily activities do not mean 100% joy and 0% problems. At times, we have more problems than joy. Fortunately, some individual are skilled in handling problems right. Want to know their secrets?
Well, carefree people, as some might call them, have one thing in common: optimism. These kinds of people do not mean they never had problems before. Try remembering a colleague, a relative, a friend, or someone from your community who has the brightest smile at the start until the end of the day. How many times did you see that person frown? Carefree people are fun to be with because their attitude is contagious. Have you tried asking them how they carry their problems lightly? Below are their secrets:
1.Learn to control your feelings by separating negative feelings from positive thoughts. This is the first step in solving problems. Only after you have cleared your mind with unnecessary thoughts can you start solving your problems accordingly.
2.Treat each problem as challenge and opportunity for self-improvement.
3.Free that scapegoat attitude. Are you pointing your finger or blaming others for mishaps? Take responsibilities for your mistakes. No one is perfect, so never put the blames on others.
4.Use a pen and paper, and rate the depth of the problem and possible answers to your problem. Probability law principle will allow you to evaluate how far you have thought of resolving your problems.
5.Keep a journal and treat it as a “secret friend” who is always willing to listen to your grievances. Write your feelings freely.
6.Develop a noteworthy hobby, for this will help you lessen or minimize stress in your life.
7.Take time off from work and create variations of your daily schedule. Relax and check out the best movies in town. Travel and meet new wonderful people. You will find these activities worthwhile in the long run.
The above tips will help you optimize those positive feelings of yours. Say you are already consumed by some problems. Here are the 1-2-3 steps in doing your problem solving:
1.Determine the root cause of the problem. If you think it is difficult, ask hundreds of why’s and what’s and you will soon find out the cause.
2.Think, strategize, and act for resolution.
3.Develop a strong desire to solve the problem.
4.Review the situation for you to avoid repeating the same mistakes committed beforehand.
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
Sunday, March 2, 2008
ON BEING STRESSED OUT
Greetings,
I chose to write this article for myself as well as anyone who reads it. I am going through some stressed out days myself right now. Everyone has different things that stress them out I am an on-line marketer and I think that says it all and on top of it I am a "Baby Boomer" as well. The one thing that virtually all baby boomers have in common is the stress of living in this modern age. So much has changed for baby boomers since they first enjoyed those days of youth culture when hairstyle and rock music seemed like the most important things in the world. But, like all generations before them and to come, baby boomers had to grow up and take on the responsibilities of raising a family, making a living and figuring out their place in this big complicated world.
Stress comes from a lot of sources. Obviously, we get it from work. We think of the work place as a source of stress because it is a place where making a living is paramount and there are daily demands, deadlines and schedules to be met. In addition, most of us have to deal with at least some difficult people during our workdays, which only compounds the stress.
But stresses don’t end when we walk out of our workplace. Traffic itself can be a stress. Then the joys of raising children and marriage can also bring some trials with them as well. It is common to return home from a difficult day only to face serious problems at home. In this situation, it seems that the stress and anxiety just keep mounting up.
This is not the adult life most baby boomers envisioned in their youth days when they were idealistic and the world was their oyster. But nobody told us that the reason the oyster is so beautiful is because it creates stress on the clam who copes with it by covering it with the smooth oyster material. So stress can build us up and make something beautiful. But it can also tear us down and lead to serious medical and mental problems if we don’t develop some coping techniques to deal with it.
Some good coping mechanisms that many baby boomers have found helpful to defray the stress in their lives include…
1.Get away from it. To put the cares of the world in perspective, we have to get away from them for a while. If nothing else, just soaking in a hot bathtub with a good magazine and some happy music can wash away the cares of the world and let them swirl down the drain with the bubbles. But look for chances to relax and put those worries aside for a little bit. It will help you calm your mind, rest your system and be ready to deal with those issues without so much anxiety, which doesn’t do anybody any good.
2.Partner with your family. Your spouse and children don’t want to see you stressed out. But sometimes they don’t know how much they add to the problems when they throw the problems of the day at you as soon as you walk through the door. It’s good for them to see the world through your eyes. But remember that they are stressed with school or issues of work and relationships too. So partner together to have a little time to just be family and love away that anxiety. Everybody will be better for it.
3.Take time for health. Its strange but our diet and rest are the things we need the most to cope with stress and yet those are the areas of life that are most damaged if we let stress wear us down. So go back to basics and make sure you get good meals, good rest and take care of yourself. It will make you a better worker and stronger for your family as well.
Seeing stress as a serious enemy to your lifestyle above and beyond the causes of stress is a big step forward to not letting this enemy continue to damage your ability to be a good worker and family member. But if you take action to keep stress from dominating your life, you are doing something very good for yourself and making yourself more able to attack problems and solve them with the creativity and intelligence people know you for.
I chose to write this article for myself as well as anyone who reads it. I am going through some stressed out days myself right now. Everyone has different things that stress them out I am an on-line marketer and I think that says it all and on top of it I am a "Baby Boomer" as well. The one thing that virtually all baby boomers have in common is the stress of living in this modern age. So much has changed for baby boomers since they first enjoyed those days of youth culture when hairstyle and rock music seemed like the most important things in the world. But, like all generations before them and to come, baby boomers had to grow up and take on the responsibilities of raising a family, making a living and figuring out their place in this big complicated world.
Stress comes from a lot of sources. Obviously, we get it from work. We think of the work place as a source of stress because it is a place where making a living is paramount and there are daily demands, deadlines and schedules to be met. In addition, most of us have to deal with at least some difficult people during our workdays, which only compounds the stress.
But stresses don’t end when we walk out of our workplace. Traffic itself can be a stress. Then the joys of raising children and marriage can also bring some trials with them as well. It is common to return home from a difficult day only to face serious problems at home. In this situation, it seems that the stress and anxiety just keep mounting up.
This is not the adult life most baby boomers envisioned in their youth days when they were idealistic and the world was their oyster. But nobody told us that the reason the oyster is so beautiful is because it creates stress on the clam who copes with it by covering it with the smooth oyster material. So stress can build us up and make something beautiful. But it can also tear us down and lead to serious medical and mental problems if we don’t develop some coping techniques to deal with it.
Some good coping mechanisms that many baby boomers have found helpful to defray the stress in their lives include…
1.Get away from it. To put the cares of the world in perspective, we have to get away from them for a while. If nothing else, just soaking in a hot bathtub with a good magazine and some happy music can wash away the cares of the world and let them swirl down the drain with the bubbles. But look for chances to relax and put those worries aside for a little bit. It will help you calm your mind, rest your system and be ready to deal with those issues without so much anxiety, which doesn’t do anybody any good.
2.Partner with your family. Your spouse and children don’t want to see you stressed out. But sometimes they don’t know how much they add to the problems when they throw the problems of the day at you as soon as you walk through the door. It’s good for them to see the world through your eyes. But remember that they are stressed with school or issues of work and relationships too. So partner together to have a little time to just be family and love away that anxiety. Everybody will be better for it.
3.Take time for health. Its strange but our diet and rest are the things we need the most to cope with stress and yet those are the areas of life that are most damaged if we let stress wear us down. So go back to basics and make sure you get good meals, good rest and take care of yourself. It will make you a better worker and stronger for your family as well.
Seeing stress as a serious enemy to your lifestyle above and beyond the causes of stress is a big step forward to not letting this enemy continue to damage your ability to be a good worker and family member. But if you take action to keep stress from dominating your life, you are doing something very good for yourself and making yourself more able to attack problems and solve them with the creativity and intelligence people know you for.
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